To acquire the fame of a bore is very unpleasant. These are quite difficult to communicate personalities with whom it is never fun and interesting. But what if the nerd is you? If no one laughs at your jokes and you do not hurry to invite friends, you will need instructions on how to recognize a nerd. First of all, in yourself.

OBOZREVATEL publishes a list of signs that can indicate this flaw. Fortunately over all these problems can be worked on and corrected.

Too much or little participation in the conversation

One of the hallmarks of a bore is that they can't find the balance to participate in a conversation. Either they talk too much, mostly about themselves, or they keep quiet, listen and nod. Learn to ask questions and hear from others.

Not paying enough attention to other people

Bores mostly ignore other people's desire to participate in a conversation - they don't read their body language. They also ignore other people's signals that they want to stop talking. And they are definitely not able to interest anyone from the outside with their speech.

Weak sense of humor

A sense of humor is a sign of high intelligence. Including emotional intelligence. It indicates that a person is able to catch the mood of interlocutors and influence him for the better. In principle, there is a whole theory of how to build jokes. At least, it can help to try to develop this quality in yourself.

Inflexible schedule

It's easier for a tedious person to stick to familiar rituals and a steady schedule. It may seem reliable to him, but the lack of room for maneuver - a spontaneous trip, an unusual route for a walk, giving up your favorite TV show for a party - leaves no room for extra fun. Sometimes it pays to simply step out of your comfort zone.

Phrases of insecurity

The desire to be overconfident and cover your insecurities with phrases like "I don't know", "sort of", "somehow", "I guess", "probably" instead give away a lot about a boring person. Work on your self-confidence.

Lack of opinion

Also, no one is interested in listening to endless references to other people's opinions on various topics without any hint of their own vision. A broad outlook and the ability to snatch an authoritative statement right out of your head is good, but abuse can indicate a lack of personality. Try to form your own opinion at least on key issues and gradually expand the range of topics.

Ineptitude in storytelling

Storytelling is the basis of all modern communications. It facilitates understanding of complex topics and makes any message more accessible for perception. It's an art form. Which boring people do not possess at all. They go into unnecessary details and often deviate from the main topic. If this is about you, just ask about the basics of storytelling - it's accessible information.

Inability to put yourself in the other person's shoes

Earlier OBOZREVATEL published a list of phrases that are almost guaranteed to lead to a quarrel.

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