Four signs that your relationship will last: a psychologist explains what to look for

Every time we start a new relationship, we involuntarily ask ourselves: how long will it last? Will it turn out to be something worthwhile or is it just another temporary romance?

Katie Nickerson, a clinical psychologist from the United States, has spent 22 years of her career observing couples and has identified four signs of a long-term relationship. She told the Independent about them.

The expert immediately added that those couples who do not meet these criteria should not give up. It doesn't mean that their love is doomed, only that they will have to work a little harder on their relationship. And the first step on the road to happiness for them is to start talking to each other respectfully about their problems and desires. You can also consult a family psychologist. Gradually, you will come to the point where all the signs will appear in your couple.

You are easy together most of the time

Healthy relationships are easy - this is a crucial factor, says Dr. Nickerson. According to her, establishing a connection with your partner and receiving emotional support from them shouldn't feel like a struggle or a quest. No matter how hard and full of problems life is, you should be comfortable with each other as a couple. Yes, difficult times will happen, but they should be the exception to the joy of being together.

You fight honestly

In any fight, there are forbidden techniques, and in a quarrel, too. So, when a conflict does occur between you, the expert advises you to remember: the point of a quarrel is to communicate, not to destroy each other. Formulate your thoughts carefully, be honest, sincere, and kind to each other, not critical, closed, or dismissive. Listen to each other.

You care about your partner's happiness

Caring about your partner's happiness is critical to the success of a relationship, says Dr. Nickerson, and it strengthens the friendship between partners, without which it is impossible to stay together for a long time. You have to admit, it's always nice to be with someone who is willing to do anything for you and actively cares about you. Healthy couples do this for each other. Pay attention to what makes your loved one happy and do it for them. Be partners, make important choices for your relationship together, and share responsibilities fairly.

You consciously show tenderness and kindness to each other

It is very important to remember to be gentle and kind to your partner, even when life is difficult. Say gentle words, do kind things, and try to make each other feel safe and valued. Let's realize that you love each other even in difficult times. Don't forget to listen and comfort your partner, show that you understand their feelings. "We all want to stay in a relationship where we are respected and valued for who we really are. If your partner's happiness is truly important to you, you will naturally do many things that express recognition and admiration," says Dr. Nickerson.