How people are attracted to each other: scientists reveal the secret of charm
Love is a feeling that is not always logical and sometimes even incomprehensible, but scientists are persistently trying to get to the bottom of it. Researchers from Boston University say they have made a scientific breakthrough by explaining the main reason for human attraction.
The explanation is simple: everything is based on common interests and values. The report was published in SciTechDaily.
Scientists have thoroughly investigated the phenomenon of "similarity-attraction": we like people who are similar to us and who share our interests, likes and dislikes.
Charles Chu, an associate professor of management and organisations at BU Questrom School of Business, tested this theory by analysing the conditions that influence whether we feel attracted to each other. He found one factor that psychologists call self-essentialist reasoning - people imagine that they have a deep inner core that shapes and defines their personality. In fact, we find those who share common interests and values with us attractive. This includes a common philosophy of life, views on global issues and worldview.
However, a study by researchers at Boston University also shows that our tendency to connect with someone simply because of shared interests can limit us and our options for partners. Often, when choosing a partner, we notice that they are incompatible with us in some aspects, but we continue to live together if these nuances are not the fundamental basis of the relationship.
"The research shows that we often fill in the gaps in relationships with our own illusions or feelings. Sometimes this can lead us to make some unjustified assumptions," Charles Chu said.
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