Good manners to teach children: top 7
Good manners are learned from childhood. But now it has become easier to teach them to children. It's enough to instill in them the key principles of modern etiquette without going into detailed rituals and rules. Moreover, to raise a decent, well-mannered person, it is enough to teach a child seven basic rules.
OBOZREVATEL explains which principles are fundamental. They will form the basis of a good upbringing for a child of any age. So, here's what a child should learn.
This rule was used by our grandmothers who lived in villages - they greeted everyone. For them, this was dictated by the fact that all the neighbors knew each other and it was considered extremely rude to pretend that you did not know each other. Nowadays, the approach has changed somewhat - polite people just try to put those around them in a good mood. To do this, it is enough to simply say "hello" to neighbors, shop assistants, parents of playmates, etc. The rest of the communication will go much better on its own.
Saying thank you
This is another small pleasure that does not require much effort. And at the same time, it teaches a child to trust the world. If you ask for something by adding the word "please" and then thank them for a favor or a thing, you can win the favor of anyone. Especially if you are three years old, have adorable curls and a smile that is impossible to resist.
Apologize and accept apologies
Admitting you are wrong is an extremely important skill if you live in a society. Without it, you can't resolve any conflict. It is equally important to accept apologies. Parental manipulation in the spirit of "it doesn't look like you really understand your guilt" actually appeals to the feeling of guilt, which is one of the most unbearable feelings in principle. You may not even wait for a formal apology next time. Therefore, make it a rule to apologize to your children if you have broken a promise, accidentally hurt someone, or failed to do something. And accept their apologies in the same way. From there, they will understand everything on their own.
Do not be late
It is impossible to teach a child to respect other people without teaching them to respect their time. No one should waste their time waiting. Of course, nothing works better than setting the example.
Giving way in public transportation
This is a good place to start teaching your child empathy in the broadest sense. Therefore, explain that giving up your seat to the elderly, pregnant women, and people with disabilities is the right thing to do, because it is definitely not easy for such passengers to stand.
You've probably been in a situation where your companion has met someone they know on, say, a walk and stopped to chat, and you've been left standing on the sidelines and feeling invisible. It's an unpleasant feeling, isn't it? The problem is easily solved if you introduce those who are meeting for the first time to each other. So introduce your child to those you meet and ask them to introduce their friends to you. This will help improve his socialization skills.
Tear yourself away from gadgets
Tearing a child, especially a teenager, away from a smartphone or tablet seems like an impossible task. But learning to do so is extremely important. After all, it is also an element of respect to be able to part with your favorite gadget for the sake of live communication. Again, start with yourself. If your child wants to talk to you, end phone calls or chats, pause videos or music. Or, if the conversation is really important, give a realistic estimate of when you will be free. Don't say "just a minute" if you have another 15 minutes of work to do. And then make sure you put aside all your work to talk.
Earlier, OBOZREVATEL talked about the rules of modern etiquette that often raise questions.