7 things mentally strong people never do

Mental toughness is the ability to regulate your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors productively, especially in the face of adversity. It is the superpower of success and leadership of our time.

Speaker, business coach, and business author Scott Mautz has studied and coached mentally strong leaders for decades. He concluded that mental strength means that you have to have the discipline to say and do, as well as not to say and do. The coach names 7 things that, according to his research, mentally strong people never do, CNBC writes.

Do not give up after failures

Mentally strong people understand that we are defined not by what knocks us down but by how we get up. They treat mistakes as missteps, not as "false leaps," meaning they try not to exaggerate the negative impact of failures.

Instead, strong people look for opportunities to learn and grow when they encounter challenges and stay focused on the best way forward.

Do not fall into the "static trap"

The static trap is:

• Failure to recognize a problem, i.e., being immobile to it, ignoring the signs of a problem, and doing nothing;
• Making excuses and blaming others when the problem is finally recognized.
• Continuing to be complacent or moving too slowly to solve the real problem, remaining static even when it becomes obvious that something has gone wrong.

Solving real problems is hard work. But mentally strong people are not afraid. They do not deny the existence of problems or hide but quickly switch to problem-solving mode.

Avoid mistakes of motives

Being mentally strong does not mean never making mistakes. It means recognizing your mistakes, learning and growing from them, and not repeating them.

However, mentally strong people never make mistakes of motives. This means that they do not commit dishonest acts, such as taking someone else's work.

To avoid this, whenever you feel the urge to act out of an unhelpful place or solely out of self-interest, pause and ask yourself, "Are my intentions honest?" If not, change course.

Never seek respect - they just earn it

Being too focused on whether you are getting the respect you think you deserve can lead you down an unproductive path. You may spend too much time trying to make amends, for example, for having been wronged.

Instead, strong-minded people use the Give-Resist-Exude framework to focus on actions that will ultimately earn them respect.

Periodically ask yourself:

• What can I give back? It is wise to focus on giving more than you receive. Share praise, recognition, and knowledge freely. Always put in an extra 10% effort. Give your word and keep it. And don't expect respect if you don't give it to others.

• What should I resist? For example, taking credit for other people's work, gossip, negativity, and accusations.
• What should I exude? Try professionalism, accountability, skill, transparency, and authenticity.

Make your own list of what you want to give, what you want to resist, and what you want to exude, and respect will follow.

Do not overestimate or underestimate their skills

Being mentally strong does not mean that you believe you are great at everything you know a little bit about. Or, on the contrary, you suppress your belief in yourself in those areas where you really excel.

Inaccurate self-assessment in either direction can cause real problems. Overestimating your skills can mean you'll be underprepared and overconfident, while underestimating your ability will keep you from succeeding.

Are not inconsistent

When your behavior and decisions fluctuate for no reason, it creates uncertainty. People don't know what to expect from you and may start to think you are inconsistent. This can undermine trust in relationships and create a "learned inertia" where people avoid interacting with you altogether.

Mentally strong people do not try to harm others. They manage their emotions so that their feelings do not immediately translate into words and actions. They clearly define their priorities and what they expect from others, and they have a high ratio of words to actions, meaning they always (or almost always) do what they promised to do.

Do not try to please everyone at all times

Constantly trying to please everyone around you can lead to putting up false facades, holding back, and hiding the real you. All of this can quickly lead to burnout. Instead, do what psychologically strong people do and don't try to be everything to everyone in your world. Start true to yourself. Make sure you set healthy boundaries that allow you to take care of your needs. You will find a better balance, feel more confident, and be able to help others in a more authentic way.

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