Psychologists analyzed the relationships of more than 30,000 couples and named six phrases that are vital for the most successful ones

Creating the perfect relationship in a couple is much harder than it may seem. The most important factor is the ability to listen to each other as this is the most important component of mutual understanding in a partnership. To find out what six pillars of a perfect relationship are, psychologists analyzed more than 30,000 couples.

It's worth noting that an ideal couple also faces quarrels and conflicts. It's okay to disagree with the other person's opinion, it's just important not to attack back but to understand the cause of the quarrel and be open to resolving it. CNBC explained that the happiest couples are able to communicate with each other, solve problems together, and actually work on them. In order to have a common ground with your loved one, it is important to express your emotions to them using the phrases below.

1. "This is how I feel..."

Some statements can help you "open up a little bit of your soul" to your partner so that they understand how they can help and what you are feeling at a particular moment. Here are some examples:

• "I'm getting scared"
• "Please say it more gently"
• "That hurt my feelings"
• "It felt like an insult"
• "You are insulting me. Can you rephrase that?"
• "I feel that you do not understand me now"

2. "I need some peace"

Most of the time, this phrase is important in the midst of an argument when you lose the strength to continue it. Here are some examples:

• "I need your support right now"
• "Just listen to me now and try to understand"
• "Can you give me a hug?"
• "This is important to me, please listen"
• "Can you make it safer for me?"
• "Can I rephrase it?"

3. "I'm sorry"

Admitting fault in a couple is very important, but the hardest part is saying you're sorry. Here are some examples to help you say these important words:

• "My reaction was too harsh. I'm sorry"
• "I really messed it up"
• "Let me try again"
• "I want to be nicer to you right now, but I don't know how"
• "I see my role in all this"
• "How can I improve the situation?"

4. "Let's stop"

You always need a pause in an argument so that you can discuss things with a cool mind. Here are some examples of how to do this:

• "I may be wrong here"
• "Please stop for a while"
• "Give me a minute"
• "Let's start from the beginning"
• "Let's decide that we don't agree here"
• "I feel overwhelmed. Can we take a break and talk about something else for a while?"

5. "Let's reach a compromise"

If a quarrel can't seem to come to an end, it's worth considering giving in or coming to a common solution. Here are some examples:

• "You're starting to convince me"
• "I agree with some of what you are saying"
• "Let's find a compromise"
• "I have never thought about things from this perspective"
• "I think your point of view makes sense"
• "What are your concerns?"

6. "I appreciate you"

This positive phrase can break the ice, so don't forget about it. Here are some examples of how you can express your love:

• "I love you"
• "I understand"
• "There is one thing about you that I admire..."
• "It's not your problem, it's our problem"
• "Thank you for..."
• "I understand your opinion"

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