The phrase that can stop any fight has been named.

Quarrels and other verbal altercations can be quite useful if the people involved listen to each other and learn from them. But they can also get out of hand and cause damage to relationships. Sometimes irreparable. That's why it's important to know how to stop a quarrel.

This recipe was given by journalist and psychologist Kate Murphy, who wrote the book You're Not Listening about how to listen to your interlocutors in any situation. According to her, we often do not react to reasonable comments during a dispute, but rather quickly respond to what we do not like with rash phrases. We mostly don't even listen to what is being said. "We are all selfish creatures and we always want to be right," Murphy explained.

According to her, it is important to think about what any interlocutor says to you. This applies to conflicts as well as calm and balanced conversations. It's important to take in what the person is saying and draw thoughtful conclusions from it. "It's more like active thinking than just passive listening," the author describes this approach.

Therefore, Murphy advises anyone who feels that their conversation is about to turn into a heated argument to say, "I hear you." And it's a good idea to use this method to notice the counterarguments and objections that first come to mind. This way you show the other person that you are ready to try to understand them and find a compromise.

In this way, instead of accumulating resentment and problems in the relationship, you can learn to solve them. At first, it may seem difficult, but over time, it will turn into a valuable skill that will help you a lot in life.

Earlier, OBOZREVATEL told you what kind of phrases can easily lead to a quarrel with loved ones.

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