Red flag: these five phrases indicate that you are being manipulated

You may not realize that your loved one, whom you sincerely admire or love, is actually a manipulator and psychopath. However, you should not immediately suspect everyone and trust no one.

In order to recognize a manipulator, you need to listen carefully to what the person says to you. Obozrevatel will tell you what phrases psychologists believe manipulators use in communication.

"You're ungrateful and don't appreciate what you have"

This is a favorite phrase of manipulative parents. Having accumulated a lot of life experience, they try to teach their children how to "live right". However, children should learn from their experiences and mistakes, gaining their own wisdom. The manipulator carefully labels others, imposing their vision on others. It is clear that only he or she has the answer to the question of how to live and what to value in life.

"You're making a big deal out of nothing!"

Perhaps we do sometimes globalize certain problems. Women are especially prone to this. However, we need to assess the situation with a cool head. The manipulator's goal is to make their victim feel paranoid. For example, they say, "Honey, you shouldn't drive so fast, I'm afraid we'll crash." If, after such a request, your man accuses you of being a pushover and makes you feel hysterical, then this is pure manipulation. Unless, of course, you've been speeding down the road at 30 km/h.

"It's your fault"

A manipulator always blames everyone but themselves. Taking responsibility is not their cup of tea. They always find a convenient way out by shifting the blame to others or circumstances. This gives them a sense of superiority over people and a sense of omnipotence because they are "never" wrong. If you try to justify yourself, they will become indignant. In fact, this is exactly what they themselves are afraid to hear if someone proves them wrong. Shaming the other person is the only way for a manipulator to avoid feeling ashamed of their failures.

"You never understand me"

Other people are not allowed to have their own point of view, which is different from what the manipulator thinks is right. Therefore, if you happen to disagree, the worst they will say to you is, "You don't understand me!". Very often, the manipulator uses gaslighting, i.e. making the other person doubt their judgments and actions, driving the person almost to a state of insanity.

"You're out of your mind!"

It's easy to fall into the trap of a manipulator if you act in a way that is contrary to their perception of the world. They will definitely use this opportunity to prove you wrong. They may say things like, "You've gone crazy with your jealousy!", or "You need to go away and get some rest, you're talking nonsense!". They will find reasons to accuse you of losing your mind. This "heavy artillery" is usually used during an escalating relationship.

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