All parents use: what phrases should not be said to a child when he cries

Baby crying is not the most pleasant sound in the world, it's true. And it's normal to be annoyed by it. But any adult should realize that it is much harder for a child in a situation where he or she is crying. They cannot cope with their emotions and become very vulnerable. If you say something devaluing or treat their emotions without due respect at this moment, and even more so if you do so regularly, it can cause them significant trauma.

That's why psychologists advise parents and other adults to pay attention to what they say to a child when he or she is crying. OBOZREVATEL publishes a list of phrases that should never be said in such a situation.

Stop crying

An adult with a fully formed psyche can take control of his or her emotions and stop crying. But not always. A child is so frustrated that he or she loses balance. The best thing you can do at this point is to show your support and ask your child what is so upsetting. At the same time, you will teach your child not to push out emotions, but to understand his or her own feelings.

This child does not cry

In general, parenting by comparing children to each other is a very bad practice. It forms an unhealthy self-esteem in a person. In addition, it teaches them not to build relationships with other people, but to compete with them. A crying child needs additional support, not a feeling of worthlessness in addition to what made him or her cry.

Don't shame me

You should not give your child the idea that showing emotions is a shameful activity, and it is better to hide your natural reaction. Repressed feelings lead to significant health problems - mental and otherwise - in the future. In addition, such a phrase can teach a child that the feelings of adults are much more important than their own, and this has a bad effect on self-esteem.

If you keep crying, then...

A crying child is already pretty scared or upset about something. Threats will not fix this. Perhaps fear will make the child stop crying, but it is not certain. Promises to give the child to another person or to subject him or her to some kind of punishment for a natural reaction, again, form an unhealthy habit of suppressing emotions. And at the same time, they undermine a little person's trust in adults.

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